Fueled by pure primal instinct, our sex drive is a compelling physiological desire for copulation. Unlike most female mammals, women can enjoy immense pleasure from sexual activity. Of course a partner is not necessarily needed to achieve sexual satisfaction and orgasm, however it is always more fun to share erotic experiences with someone you care deeply for. Whether you enjoy solo play in stimulating yourself, or you have assistance from an adoring lover, orgasm can be profoundly powerful and extremely gratifying to a woman.
Female orgasm is a completely natural function and an inherent desire – nothing to be ashamed of or even shy about. Women should talk more about it and teach healthy sexuality to naive friends and pubescent girls, so they can freely explore their developing bodies without guilt or embarrassment. Men should also be more educated about female orgasm so they can share and help facilitate this truly incredible experience with their willing partner. As all bodies and personal preferences are unique, it is important for a woman to show her lover what feels good to her, and how best to produce unbelievably pleasurable orgasms.
What most men don’t realize is that female orgasm is a holistic experience involving a woman’s mind, body and emotions. It works best when she feels loved, supported and respected – most of all, completely relaxed. For men, orgasm and ejaculation last only a few seconds. A single climax is usually enough to satisfy them for a time. Conversely, women are able to enjoy multiple orgasms. Quite often, after having one or two, they tend to want more – again and again, as each one can feel more gratifying. When properly stimulated, it can be a wonderful feeling of rolling waves perpetuating in pure ecstasy, as the intensity continues to build with each blissful climax. A woman can generate unlimited orgasms for as long as she can stand it. It has been recorded that one lucky woman experienced 134 orgasms in one hour!
An average man may not last for over an hour of selfless foreplay; however he should dedicate plenty of time to “get his lover off” until she is good and primed for penetration. It certainly benefits them both, as she is much more lubricated and receptive after being endearingly attended to. Also, her vagina is more “tight”, as the entire genital area (inside and out) is completely engorged with blood and feels extremely sensitive. And after experiencing numerous orgasms during foreplay, she is more likely to have a vaginal orgasm during intercourse – one of the most pleasurable sensations for both partners. When she enjoys sex and begs for more, then he feels more fulfilled, secure and masculine – a win-win for both!
The Marvelous Moment of Orgasm
How do you even begin to explain what it feels like? – as the experience of orgasm is beyond conscious comprehension to define in mere words. Even before any physical contact, sometimes you can feel a little “buzz” or tingle in the clitoral area. When a woman becomes aroused, even in her mind, blood starts to flow to the genital area similar to when a man gets an erection. The lightest touch of finger, vibrator or tongue can send her through the roof with overwhelming sensual pleasure. Once stimulated by vibration, friction and/or pressure, depending on what her preference may be, the clitoris pulsates with anticipation and becomes ultra sensitive.
With continued rhythmic manipulation she will show signs of increased exhilaration and lubrication. The sensation intensifies as her heart beats faster and her breathing quickens to shallow gasps for air and audible exhales. She may express uncontrollable excitement as her toes curl, legs quiver and body writhes with exultation. Her hands may grip the sheets or her lover’s arm. Often she will scream or moan in a euphoric state of animation. Consistency is crucial here, as steady focus to maintain the pace and pressure will progress into a sexual summit in a paroxysm of blissful indulgence. It may take anywhere from 20 seconds to several minutes to reach the pinnacle of passionate pleasure.
Vaginal muscle contractions become stronger and faster, as intense energy rushes through her entire body. The mind goes blank – completely thought-less as her entire universe revolves around px7 primal flow reviews the awe-inspiring clitoris in this moment of overwhelming ecstasy. To harness the power surging through this spectacular network of over 8,000 nerve fibers concentrated into a little bead of flesh, could possibly power the entire planet! Her “lady flower blossoms”, swelling and throbbing with incredible energetic force, culminating in a crescendo of momentary rapture – an overpowering thrill that is truly nature’s gift to women! There is no way to fake or mistake a truly mind-blowing orgasm.
The emotions, too, generally go into a seismic convulsion as her reality is temporarily obscured following this momentous phenomenon. She may feel overcome with tremendous gratitude, extraordinary wellbeing and lethargic relaxation. She may even experience a burst of creative thought, as orgasm produces an impassioned lightning storm in the right, creative-thinking side of the brain. It is important for her partner to allow a few moments for her to catch her breath and come down from this fantastic natural high before starting in again, or inserting his penis. She can tell him what she wants in that moment.
On Another Note…
For women who may have a more difficult time reaching orgasm, there are a fewthings you can try to improve your sexual experience and pleasure. A stimulating gel can be a wonderful aid, and feels amazing even if you do not have any problem achieving the “Big O”. The best one I have found is [G] Stimulating Gel, as it is allnatural and the most effective for increasing blood flow to the clitoris and to heighten sensitivity.
Allura Joy works with women of all ages and diverse backgrounds offering various holistic therapies and relationship advice, as well as sharing valuable resources in the areas of women’s health and sexual wellness. Allura has facilitated various groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.